So, due to allergies we aren't able to have a live Christmas tree in our home. Growing up one of my favorite things to do during the holidays was to go with my mom, dad, and sisters to a tree farm and pick out a Christmas tree. Unfortunately Adley wont be able to experience that, so Andrew and I decided that we would go to the pumpkin patch every fall and let herpick out a pumpkin that we can carve together.
We visited Lyda Farms in Hendersonville, NC. They had farm animals, and a big hay bug kids could crawl through, not to mention endless pumpkin, apple and fresh produce selection. Adley enjoyed it so much, and so did Andrew and I. The people there were so friendly and we got the best apple fritter i have ever eaten!
We were so glad we got out of the house and the every day routine of things and did a fun family activity. It just reminds you thata God has created all these beautiful things for us, we have to go out and enjoy them with the people we love!
4.10.11
29.8.11
Gospel vs Religion
Yesterday, Sunday 8.28.11, Pastor Bruce Frank of Biltmore Baptist Church taught a sermon on the difference between being of the gospel vs being of religion. Something so many Christians get confused.
He started by introducing the story of the Pharisee and the Tax Collector from the book of Luke. (Luke 18: 9-14)
Two men, a pharisee and a tax collector, both went into the temple to pray.
The Pharisee prayed to himself "I am thankful I am not like other men-robbers, evildoers, or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week and give a tenth of all i have."v11-12
--Its as if the Pharisee is saying, wow God you really did a good job when you created me. Well done. Bragging upon himself while loudly and obviously putting down on others around him who cannot do the things he does. (specifically the tax collector)
The Tax Collector prayed to God "God, have Mercy on me, the sinner." v13
--How humble of the tax collector to openly admit his thoughts and raised his mercies up to God.
verse 14 gos on to say "I tell you that this man (the tax collector) rather than the other (the Pharisee), went home justified before God. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.
--Being justified means, through Christ God makes you Righteous (clean, blameless). You are more than forgiven. You have His mercy. Through the Gospel the tax collector understood this. (2 Cor 5:21)
RELIGION-I obey so I'm accepted.
GOSPEL-I'm accepted, so I will obey.
Obeying simply because you feel like you have too to gain acceptance completely defeats the purpose. When you truly obey, you do it whole heartily. Not because you are trying to gain acceptance, but because you know you already have it!
NO matter how many things/deeds we do God can never love us more, and he can never love us less! Being a Christian needs to revert back to being more about the Gospel than about Religion. You are already accepted, you do not have to do ANYTHING to gain it!
So how do we come more about Gospel than Religion???
1-Stop comparing yourself to others.
2-Humble Yourself.
Be OK with being overlooked
Serve Someone
I pray that i don't fall any harder into the "obey because I have to" mode. I need the mindset of I "obey because I want to". we are all guilty of this in some form or the other! I pray that you revert for the gospel and obey because you are accepted, not because you want to be!
He started by introducing the story of the Pharisee and the Tax Collector from the book of Luke. (Luke 18: 9-14)
Two men, a pharisee and a tax collector, both went into the temple to pray.
The Pharisee prayed to himself "I am thankful I am not like other men-robbers, evildoers, or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week and give a tenth of all i have."v11-12
--Its as if the Pharisee is saying, wow God you really did a good job when you created me. Well done. Bragging upon himself while loudly and obviously putting down on others around him who cannot do the things he does. (specifically the tax collector)
The Tax Collector prayed to God "God, have Mercy on me, the sinner." v13
--How humble of the tax collector to openly admit his thoughts and raised his mercies up to God.
verse 14 gos on to say "I tell you that this man (the tax collector) rather than the other (the Pharisee), went home justified before God. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.
--Being justified means, through Christ God makes you Righteous (clean, blameless). You are more than forgiven. You have His mercy. Through the Gospel the tax collector understood this. (2 Cor 5:21)
RELIGION-I obey so I'm accepted.
GOSPEL-I'm accepted, so I will obey.
Obeying simply because you feel like you have too to gain acceptance completely defeats the purpose. When you truly obey, you do it whole heartily. Not because you are trying to gain acceptance, but because you know you already have it!
NO matter how many things/deeds we do God can never love us more, and he can never love us less! Being a Christian needs to revert back to being more about the Gospel than about Religion. You are already accepted, you do not have to do ANYTHING to gain it!
So how do we come more about Gospel than Religion???
1-Stop comparing yourself to others.
2-Humble Yourself.
Be OK with being overlooked
Serve Someone
I pray that i don't fall any harder into the "obey because I have to" mode. I need the mindset of I "obey because I want to". we are all guilty of this in some form or the other! I pray that you revert for the gospel and obey because you are accepted, not because you want to be!
22.8.11
The power of 3
Mothering is a partnership between me and God.
Fathering is a partnership between my husband and God.
Parenting is a partnership between me, my husband and God.
To be the best mother/father you can be to your child you must co-exist with Jesus. Without Him you will never be all you can be as a parent. You are merely his tool, he is doing His will through you. So, without him you are and can do nothing!
I recently started a study by Denise Glenn called: Freedom for Mothers. It has been such a great learning experience for me as a new mom. I am only in the second week but already i have been gifted with so many new insights, for example:
-God is the vine. I am the branches. Through him i can do anything, but without him I can do nothing.
-Jesus can fill all of my emotional/spiritual needs.
-Trusting the Lord with everything sets you free!
-Through every situation we must remain in Him still. NOTHING should separate us from our Lord.
-Jesus lays out for you all the qualities you need to have to be a good.Godly mother. Galatians 5: 22-23.
-Rely on Jesus for Help.
-Jesus is the answer to ALL of our needs. Not anything or anyone else.
-Jesus didnt come to be in our life, He came to BE our life.
-Do not dominate with discipline, do it gently and carefully.
-You cannot be selfish to be a good/effective wife and mom.
-Being of the flesh (me, my self and I) is not living spirit-filled.
Is it not amazing how much God can teach us each and every day. Something new in every moment. I am so eager to learn more! And what a blessing that is.
Fathering is a partnership between my husband and God.
Parenting is a partnership between me, my husband and God.
To be the best mother/father you can be to your child you must co-exist with Jesus. Without Him you will never be all you can be as a parent. You are merely his tool, he is doing His will through you. So, without him you are and can do nothing!
I recently started a study by Denise Glenn called: Freedom for Mothers. It has been such a great learning experience for me as a new mom. I am only in the second week but already i have been gifted with so many new insights, for example:
-God is the vine. I am the branches. Through him i can do anything, but without him I can do nothing.
-Jesus can fill all of my emotional/spiritual needs.
-Trusting the Lord with everything sets you free!
-Through every situation we must remain in Him still. NOTHING should separate us from our Lord.
-Jesus lays out for you all the qualities you need to have to be a good.Godly mother. Galatians 5: 22-23.
-Rely on Jesus for Help.
-Jesus is the answer to ALL of our needs. Not anything or anyone else.
-Jesus didnt come to be in our life, He came to BE our life.
-Do not dominate with discipline, do it gently and carefully.
-You cannot be selfish to be a good/effective wife and mom.
-Being of the flesh (me, my self and I) is not living spirit-filled.
Is it not amazing how much God can teach us each and every day. Something new in every moment. I am so eager to learn more! And what a blessing that is.
16.8.11
Changes
So, as you can see i have changed the title of my blog. Parenting.....it takes 3. I want to change the direction of my blog into not only a tool for myself, but something other parents can use to see how having Jesus as an added parent in a family makes such a big difference in raising your child, and any family relationship for that matter. I, personally would be nothing without Jesus. He makes me who I am, and that will mold my daughter into who she will become. My Husband and I are equally yoked which is so important when it comes to bringing up children! In our house we want Christ to be the center, so n my "new" blog I want to share our experience as parents with the help of God.
Experience 1:
The first experience i would like to share is more of a personal one. I have always suffered with anxiety. As i have gotten older it has gotten worse. I never knew after giving birth to Adley that i would experience something far more devistating. Post Partum. For anyone who has ever experienced this, you know how brutal it can be. I can whole-heartedly say that without Jesus i could not have been as strong or maybe even gotten through the experience. How can you get a beautiful, healthy baby home and feel so depressed? or have so many negative feelings? I'll tell you.......hormones. One minute i would be crying the next i would be overwhelmed with terrible thoughts. I couldn't get away from it. Luckily, I had a hiding place from it all. Going to God in prayer, and this is the truth, is the only way i got through the depression. When an uneasy feeling or though came to me, i would pray through it. I was always okay if I did so. My husband was such a great support. He would listen to my feelings, pray with me and for me. Finally i pushed through and with prayer and family support I am happier and less anxious than i have ever been. Jesus was my refuge in a storm i didn't know i could survive. People always say, everything happens for a reason. And because of this experience i know it really is true.Looking back on it all i see why I Jesus had put this in my life. No matter what circumstance or struggle I may be going through, I never failed to fully care for my little, helpless baby girl. I put myself last and my daughter first. What a testimony to how Jesus put himself after everyone else. I know i can never begin to fathom his sacrafice, but even a small glimpse of what He has done for me through my post partum experience was well worth the struggle. I know now, more than ever, whatever i may be going through, good or bad, Jesus is my rock. With him i can do anything, without him i can do nothing. That includes being a mom. Jesus makes me the mom I am. I hope and pray i can fulfill his will for me!
"He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and myfortress; my God, in Him I will trust." Psalm 91:1-2
Experience 1:
The first experience i would like to share is more of a personal one. I have always suffered with anxiety. As i have gotten older it has gotten worse. I never knew after giving birth to Adley that i would experience something far more devistating. Post Partum. For anyone who has ever experienced this, you know how brutal it can be. I can whole-heartedly say that without Jesus i could not have been as strong or maybe even gotten through the experience. How can you get a beautiful, healthy baby home and feel so depressed? or have so many negative feelings? I'll tell you.......hormones. One minute i would be crying the next i would be overwhelmed with terrible thoughts. I couldn't get away from it. Luckily, I had a hiding place from it all. Going to God in prayer, and this is the truth, is the only way i got through the depression. When an uneasy feeling or though came to me, i would pray through it. I was always okay if I did so. My husband was such a great support. He would listen to my feelings, pray with me and for me. Finally i pushed through and with prayer and family support I am happier and less anxious than i have ever been. Jesus was my refuge in a storm i didn't know i could survive. People always say, everything happens for a reason. And because of this experience i know it really is true.Looking back on it all i see why I Jesus had put this in my life. No matter what circumstance or struggle I may be going through, I never failed to fully care for my little, helpless baby girl. I put myself last and my daughter first. What a testimony to how Jesus put himself after everyone else. I know i can never begin to fathom his sacrafice, but even a small glimpse of what He has done for me through my post partum experience was well worth the struggle. I know now, more than ever, whatever i may be going through, good or bad, Jesus is my rock. With him i can do anything, without him i can do nothing. That includes being a mom. Jesus makes me the mom I am. I hope and pray i can fulfill his will for me!
"He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and myfortress; my God, in Him I will trust." Psalm 91:1-2
12.7.11
Re-Cap
So, it has been a while since i have posted. sorry! Life gets a little busy with a 14 month old running around!
June was such a great month! Highlight: our beach vacation with the Taylor's. It was so fun, relaxing and needed!We went to Charleston--one of our favorite places. You can never go wrong vacationing there! Wish we could've stayed longer. Adley absolutely loves the beach!
On another note: My older sister Melanie and her Hubs Trey had a little babby girl, Macey Brooke, on June 29th. It was definitley a new experience being the one waiting for a baby to be born. Adley was so cute when she saw Macey for the first time. She just wanted to keep giving her hugs. I cant wait to see them grow up together. I know they'll be close. As they should be! Congrats Mel and Trey. You two are such great parents. Macey is a blessed little girl!
I can't believe July is here already!
Happy late birthday (July 8) to Brandon Gilliam--Adley's Uncle.Your a great uncle, banana! Hopefully July won't go by as fast as June did. Summer is going by way to fast!
I hope everyone has a blessed week!
June was such a great month! Highlight: our beach vacation with the Taylor's. It was so fun, relaxing and needed!We went to Charleston--one of our favorite places. You can never go wrong vacationing there! Wish we could've stayed longer. Adley absolutely loves the beach!
On another note: My older sister Melanie and her Hubs Trey had a little babby girl, Macey Brooke, on June 29th. It was definitley a new experience being the one waiting for a baby to be born. Adley was so cute when she saw Macey for the first time. She just wanted to keep giving her hugs. I cant wait to see them grow up together. I know they'll be close. As they should be! Congrats Mel and Trey. You two are such great parents. Macey is a blessed little girl!
I can't believe July is here already!
Happy late birthday (July 8) to Brandon Gilliam--Adley's Uncle.Your a great uncle, banana! Hopefully July won't go by as fast as June did. Summer is going by way to fast!
I hope everyone has a blessed week!
18.5.11
Something Funny......Have to Share
So, i went into the kitchen to fix adley a bite to eat while she was occupied watching the Disney Channel. When i come back over this is what i see:
She had one foot in my shoe and was stading on it with the other. She cracks me up. It made my day. I don't think i have laughed that hard in a long time. It's the little things that make life so special!
She had one foot in my shoe and was stading on it with the other. She cracks me up. It made my day. I don't think i have laughed that hard in a long time. It's the little things that make life so special!
11.5.11
catch up...
so, it has been an absolutely crazy busy last few weeks so here's a "catch up" post on all events that have happened in our fabulous lives recently.
1-Adley's First Birthday
I cannot believe my little girl is 1! So blessed to have her.
2-Mother's Day
I am so blessed to have so many amazing women in my life to share mommy's day with! I'm even more happy to know they are all in Adley's life too! So, Happy mothers day today and every day to my mom, my mother-in-law, all of mine and andrews grandmothers, my great-grandmother, my aunt's,Adley's aunt's, and to Adley's godmother. You are all awesome, godly women. Wouldn't trade any of you for the world!My sweet hubby and daughter got me women's golf clubs for mothers day. They ARE the greatest! Love them so much.
3-We finally are getting a new car!
A 2004 Mitsubishi Endeavor. Gray in color. Leather Interior. Remote start.Great on gas. Super Excited.
Events I'm looking forward to:
-My BF's Bachelorette Party (G-rated of course)
-My Birthday, which includes and a golf date with the hubs
-My sis's baby shower
-My BF's wedding
-BEACH TRIP with the Taylor Family in a little over a month! YAY!
-so much more to come.....but im only looking to June haha.
Oh what a life, full of fun. I'm so blessed!
1-Adley's First Birthday
I cannot believe my little girl is 1! So blessed to have her.
2-Mother's Day
I am so blessed to have so many amazing women in my life to share mommy's day with! I'm even more happy to know they are all in Adley's life too! So, Happy mothers day today and every day to my mom, my mother-in-law, all of mine and andrews grandmothers, my great-grandmother, my aunt's,Adley's aunt's, and to Adley's godmother. You are all awesome, godly women. Wouldn't trade any of you for the world!My sweet hubby and daughter got me women's golf clubs for mothers day. They ARE the greatest! Love them so much.
3-We finally are getting a new car!
A 2004 Mitsubishi Endeavor. Gray in color. Leather Interior. Remote start.Great on gas. Super Excited.
Events I'm looking forward to:
-My BF's Bachelorette Party (G-rated of course)
-My Birthday, which includes and a golf date with the hubs
-My sis's baby shower
-My BF's wedding
-BEACH TRIP with the Taylor Family in a little over a month! YAY!
-so much more to come.....but im only looking to June haha.
Oh what a life, full of fun. I'm so blessed!
28.4.11
The Power of Prayer
Monday, April 25 Adley and I woke up like we always do and snuggled in bed for a little while before we got up and ate breakfast. After breakfast we watched disney channel for a bit, got dressed and began to leave our house to go pick up our dog, max, at the animal shelter because he had ran away afew days earlier. Once we picked up max we got in the car and started heading back home. About 10 minutes later and older gentleman pulled out of a car dealership, turning left as we were driving down the two lane road he attempted to turn left onto. Unfortunately, as we were afew feet in front of his truck he also began to turn causing us to slam on the brakes, but that wasnt enough. We hit. It was almost ass if the whole wreck were in slow otion. I saw it coming. I shouted out, "Oh Lord" as the front of our car hit into the side of the ans pick up. It was the longest prayer i could get out. As soon as our car stopped i jumped out an ran to get Adley. Praise God, she was okay. Max, who had flown from the back of the car to the back seat was okay too. I was a little shaken up, but was fine. As i stood there looking at Adley waving at the firemen and laughing at the sirens I realized that prayer had saved us. Right after Aldey was born I began reading the book Power of a Praying Parent. After reading a chapter on protection I began to pray daily for God to watch over my baby. I lifted her safety up to the Lord in prayer, and was satisfied in knowing that no matter what may come our way she would always be protected. There was an Angel with us that day, and I convinced it was because of all my protective prayers and faithfulness in knowing Gods hand was always on y baby girl. If the timing hadn't been exactly what it was during the accident the an would have crashed into Adley's side of the car. I would hate to even imagine what wouldve happened if that were so. Thank you God for being all knowing. Your timing is perfect. I a 100% convinced that y prayers saved us. Prayer is a powerful thing.
18.4.11
Happy Birthday Aunt Megan
Happy Birthday to Adley's Aunt Megan! You are such a blessing to our family. Hope your day is wonderful. Wish we could be with you to celebrate!
11.4.11
A thought to share
As I was watching my daughter walk and toddle around, not having a care in the world i began to think about God. God sent his only son to this world to be loved, hated, mistreated, persecuted,killed, and rise again. This act alone shows the strength of our God. As a parent i could not imagine sending my child to a place such as this, knowing their destiny, and watch it play out. How obedient is our God to us that he would go through this for you and for me. I wish i could be so strong. Here is a scripture i would like to share with you:
(God to Abraham)"Take your son, your only son, Issac, whom you love, and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on one of those mountains I will tell you about." Genesis 22:2
(After Abraham had taken Isaac to the mountain and was about to sacrifice him)"Do not lay a hand on the boy, he said. Do not do anything to him. Now I Know that you fear God, because you have not withheld from me your son, your only son." Genesis 22:12
God gave Abraham a glimpse of what it may feel like to sacrifice his only son, so that we may know the ultimate sacrifice God himself would have to make. Yet, the Lord stopped Abraham before the sacrifice was made. God does not want us to suffer such as he or his son had to. How amazing is our God?
(God to Abraham)"Take your son, your only son, Issac, whom you love, and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on one of those mountains I will tell you about." Genesis 22:2
(After Abraham had taken Isaac to the mountain and was about to sacrifice him)"Do not lay a hand on the boy, he said. Do not do anything to him. Now I Know that you fear God, because you have not withheld from me your son, your only son." Genesis 22:12
God gave Abraham a glimpse of what it may feel like to sacrifice his only son, so that we may know the ultimate sacrifice God himself would have to make. Yet, the Lord stopped Abraham before the sacrifice was made. God does not want us to suffer such as he or his son had to. How amazing is our God?
5.4.11
Chapter 2: Shaping Influences
Shaping Influences: the events and circumstances in a child's developmental years that prove to be catalysts for making them the person they are.
The disciplines of childhood will harden into concrete, adult lives.
The person your child becomes is shaped by two things:
1-life experience
2-interaction with that experience (or response to the experience)
THE Shaping Influences:
-Structure of family life
-Family Values (Col 2:8)
-Family Roles
-Family conflict resolution (Prov 12:15-16)
-Family response to failure
-Family history
scripture readings:
Col 2:8
Prov 12: 15-16
Jeremiah 2:12
Prov 4:23
Application Questions:
1)What would your children identify as the values of your family? What are things that matter most to you?
I am hopeful that my daughter will identify our Christian lifestyle as the values that our family sees. you must always sensor your words and modify your actions so that your child may see Christ though you. The things that matter most to me are modesty, spirituality and kindness. These are characteristics/values i hope my child sees in me; and maintains herself.
2)What constitutes success or failure in your home?
Our definition of success: to live your life as God sees fit, and to pursue all things you believe God has in mind for you. Our definition of failure: living your life in a way that is disappointing to God and his commandments. Material things do not determine success of failure to us such as money or grades. Success and Failure, to us, is determined by how you live your life according to Gods vision for you. Yes, everyone sins and makes mistakes. We are not blind to the fact that our child will. But, we want our child to live for God. That will be a lifelong success.
The disciplines of childhood will harden into concrete, adult lives.
The person your child becomes is shaped by two things:
1-life experience
2-interaction with that experience (or response to the experience)
THE Shaping Influences:
-Structure of family life
-Family Values (Col 2:8)
-Family Roles
-Family conflict resolution (Prov 12:15-16)
-Family response to failure
-Family history
scripture readings:
Col 2:8
Prov 12: 15-16
Jeremiah 2:12
Prov 4:23
Application Questions:
1)What would your children identify as the values of your family? What are things that matter most to you?
I am hopeful that my daughter will identify our Christian lifestyle as the values that our family sees. you must always sensor your words and modify your actions so that your child may see Christ though you. The things that matter most to me are modesty, spirituality and kindness. These are characteristics/values i hope my child sees in me; and maintains herself.
2)What constitutes success or failure in your home?
Our definition of success: to live your life as God sees fit, and to pursue all things you believe God has in mind for you. Our definition of failure: living your life in a way that is disappointing to God and his commandments. Material things do not determine success of failure to us such as money or grades. Success and Failure, to us, is determined by how you live your life according to Gods vision for you. Yes, everyone sins and makes mistakes. We are not blind to the fact that our child will. But, we want our child to live for God. That will be a lifelong success.
2.4.11
Shepherding a Child's Heart & Chapter 1
i have begun to read a book by Tedd Tripp titled Shepherding a Child's Heart. Adley is to the age now where discipline is a factor in every day. Therefore, i have began to read this book as a disciplinary guide. We want to discipline the right way and it all beings with God; as do all things. So, please join me as i study this amazing read on biblical childrearing. This is a blog for you to read, as well as notes for me as i read through the book. I strongly suggest purchasing it and reading along with me!
Part I: Foundation of Biblical Childrearing
Chapter I: Getting to the Heart of Behavior
The heart is the control center of life
Prov. 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life."
The behavior a person (even children) exhibit is an expression of the overflow of the heart.
Your childs needs are far beyond what they express in their outward behaviors.
You must look at the heart that drives the actions.
Matthew 15: Jesus denounces the pharisees who had honored him with their lips while their hearts were far from God. He prescribes that they are people who wash the outside of the cup yet the inside is still unclean.
In disciplining our children we must not only address the outward issue but get to the root of the problem within.
Your concern is to locate your childs sin, helping them to understand how their actions reflect a heart that has strayed from Jesus.
You must go to the scripture for answers.
You must understand your children in relationship to the two broad sets of issues that affect them:
1) The child and his relationship to the shaping influences of life.
2) The child and his relationship to God.
Questions from Tripp at the end of Chapter I:
(my personal answers)
1) Explain the importance of dealing with the heart in discipline and correction of children.
If you read through Matthew chapter 15 you better understand that it is not the outward actions that make a person clean or unclean it is what is on the inside-or in your heart. A childs problem goes deeper than a single action, it is a matter of the heart.
2) Describe the centrality of the heart in directing behavior.
The root of every issue is embedded in the heart. To use a key you must find a door. The door to your childs behavior is the heart, the action is merely a key. Just like a lock changes so does the action.
Scripture readings;
Prov 4: 23
Mark 7:21
Luke 6:45
Matt 15
Part I: Foundation of Biblical Childrearing
Chapter I: Getting to the Heart of Behavior
The heart is the control center of life
Prov. 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life."
The behavior a person (even children) exhibit is an expression of the overflow of the heart.
Your childs needs are far beyond what they express in their outward behaviors.
You must look at the heart that drives the actions.
Matthew 15: Jesus denounces the pharisees who had honored him with their lips while their hearts were far from God. He prescribes that they are people who wash the outside of the cup yet the inside is still unclean.
In disciplining our children we must not only address the outward issue but get to the root of the problem within.
Your concern is to locate your childs sin, helping them to understand how their actions reflect a heart that has strayed from Jesus.
You must go to the scripture for answers.
You must understand your children in relationship to the two broad sets of issues that affect them:
1) The child and his relationship to the shaping influences of life.
2) The child and his relationship to God.
Questions from Tripp at the end of Chapter I:
(my personal answers)
1) Explain the importance of dealing with the heart in discipline and correction of children.
If you read through Matthew chapter 15 you better understand that it is not the outward actions that make a person clean or unclean it is what is on the inside-or in your heart. A childs problem goes deeper than a single action, it is a matter of the heart.
2) Describe the centrality of the heart in directing behavior.
The root of every issue is embedded in the heart. To use a key you must find a door. The door to your childs behavior is the heart, the action is merely a key. Just like a lock changes so does the action.
Scripture readings;
Prov 4: 23
Mark 7:21
Luke 6:45
Matt 15
30.3.11
Compassion
Pastor Bruce Frank @ Biltmore Baptist Church just started a new series this past sunday: Jesus Loves People. We will be looking throughout the new testament, studying encounters Jesus had with people. Not just people who followed him but sinners too.
Sunday, we began to look at Matthew (Levi). He was a tax collecter and when Jesus came upon him he decided to become one of his disciples. Jesus came to dine at Matthews house; where Matthew had invited his associates (sinners-tax collecters). The Pharisees could not understand why the son of God would be dining with the unworthy. Jesus responded by saying "It is not the healthy whho need a doctor, but the sick. But go and learn what this means: 'I desire mercy, not sacrafice. For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners." (Matthew 9:12-13)Pastor Frank explained; as Christ followers we need to be passionate for people who are far from God.
If you are passionate about Jesus you will naturally want to spread your passion to those around you (especially those who need it most). But how do we lose our desire to reach non-Christians? We forget how it feels to be lost. We get set in our ways. So, how do we regain a love for people? We pray for them, spend time with them, we invite them to church and fellowship opportunities, and we help meet their needs for their thirst for compassion-through directing them to Christ.
Everyone needs compassion especially those who are far from God. As a Christian we need to have Passion as a character trait. Jesus loves people. So should we.
related readings: Matthew 9: 9-13, Romans 5:8
BBC services live sundays @ 9:15, 11 & 6 www.biltmorebaptist.org
Sunday, we began to look at Matthew (Levi). He was a tax collecter and when Jesus came upon him he decided to become one of his disciples. Jesus came to dine at Matthews house; where Matthew had invited his associates (sinners-tax collecters). The Pharisees could not understand why the son of God would be dining with the unworthy. Jesus responded by saying "It is not the healthy whho need a doctor, but the sick. But go and learn what this means: 'I desire mercy, not sacrafice. For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners." (Matthew 9:12-13)Pastor Frank explained; as Christ followers we need to be passionate for people who are far from God.
If you are passionate about Jesus you will naturally want to spread your passion to those around you (especially those who need it most). But how do we lose our desire to reach non-Christians? We forget how it feels to be lost. We get set in our ways. So, how do we regain a love for people? We pray for them, spend time with them, we invite them to church and fellowship opportunities, and we help meet their needs for their thirst for compassion-through directing them to Christ.
Everyone needs compassion especially those who are far from God. As a Christian we need to have Passion as a character trait. Jesus loves people. So should we.
related readings: Matthew 9: 9-13, Romans 5:8
BBC services live sundays @ 9:15, 11 & 6 www.biltmorebaptist.org
28.3.11
Happy Birthday Grandma
Adley is so lucky to have so many people who love her. Today is Andrew's moms birthday, Adleys Grandma. She is an extra special person in Adley's life. One of Adley's absolute favorite people. We are so blessed to have such a Godly, kind and loving women in our lives and so happy that Adley has such an amazing role model for a Grandma! So, Happy Birthday Grandma! We love you!
23.3.11
Welcome Spring and Good Feelings
Andrew and I were sitting in our living room yesterday and were discussing how much we love the weather when its warm and sunny. It's just one of those "feel good" moments. The atmosphere changes to a happier one, and it makes moods brighter and smiles wider. I love winter, dont get me wrong, but something about sunshine and blooming flowers makes me a happier, more excited person. We have been able to go outside and do more active things as a family. I love that. For example; we bought adley a little plastic set of golf clubs the other day. If you know my husband you know he loves the game of golf. Anyways, behind our house is a large open field. We all 3 went outside and practiced our golf swing and hit balls into the open field. It was so much fun. Great family moment. Spring gets me so excited and enthusiastic. It just feels different. Something about being couped up inside and having to layer clothing to even get out seems so unappealing. The freedom of sunshine and 70 degree weather is just unbeatable. Thank you, Jesus for the springtime. Truly a wonderful gift to show off your beautiful creations. Happy Spring!
16.3.11
By Faith
Have you ever thought to yourself what does having faith really mean? Well, if you read Hebrews:11 you will have that question no longer. It tells the tales of biblical heroes who by faith conquered their fears and succeeded in God's plan for them, including: Noah, Abraham, Samuel, Moses and many many more.
These men of God truly lived by faith alone. My prayer is that i may be so obedient.
These men of God truly lived by faith alone. My prayer is that i may be so obedient.
14.3.11
Milestones
It is so amazing to watch a childs progression. From a little tiny helpless newborn to a toddling toddler each accomplishment is as great as the first in a parents eyes. Here are a few of Adley's milestones and ages:
3 months-rolled over from front to back
4 months- rolled over from back to front
6 months-began to crawl (army style)
7 months-began to crawl on her hands and knees
8 months-began to pull up & got her first 2 teeth
9 months-began to walk with help (always held on to someones fingers)
10 months-walked on her own
These are only a few of her milestones so far; but i think its amazing how much babies do in such a shortammount of time. I am a proud mommy! I'm so greatful to God that she is healthy and happy and so smart. What a blessing.
3 months-rolled over from front to back
4 months- rolled over from back to front
6 months-began to crawl (army style)
7 months-began to crawl on her hands and knees
8 months-began to pull up & got her first 2 teeth
9 months-began to walk with help (always held on to someones fingers)
10 months-walked on her own
These are only a few of her milestones so far; but i think its amazing how much babies do in such a shortammount of time. I am a proud mommy! I'm so greatful to God that she is healthy and happy and so smart. What a blessing.
7.3.11
Old School
Andrew, Adley and I have been attebding BBC since we moved to Fletcher and we love it. Because andrew works most Sunday's we cannot attend church in the mornings, but BBC offers an awesome worship service at 6pm with the same sermon as the morning service. It's called vertical and we love it!
Over the past few weeks Pastor Frank has been teaching on the subject of "Old School"-classic characters from back in the day. It's nice to focus on the old testement, because i myself dont tend to stray to that part of my Bible. I need to change that. There were so many important characters and stories and teachings from God even before Jesus came that can teach us great lessons. It's nice to study those old school characters.
Last night we looked in the book of Judges and the story of Samson. I had always been familiar with the whole story of Samson and Delilah, but i had never looked further into it past the whole "femme fatale" and such.
Anyway's, Pastor Frank taught on the aspect of how Samson continued to stray from God through his marriage and sentuality. But, Samson always thought he was invincable. Although he kept doing all these unholy things he still had Gods favor. In Judges 16:20 when the Philistines were coming for Samson he awoke from his sleep and automatically thought he could revert back to his old ways and "shake himself free, or get out of this mess with the help and strength of God. "But he did not know that the Lord had left him". --When it says the Lord had left him it does not mean he forgot about him or left him stranded it simply is saying: God will let us go to show us how futile it is without him. This is why some Christians struggle with the same issues as non-Christians or why Christ followers stray from what is right. But, if you read later in the chapter God came back to Samson and gave him strength. He never really leaves us. He only wants us to see how hateful life and the world is without him.
Biltmore Baptist Church streams live sundays at 11am and 6pm. To view sermons click here
Thank you Lord for being ever faithful.Even though we stray from you, you are always there for us when we want to return. Praise God for his commitment to us. If only we all could have the same commitment to Him.
Over the past few weeks Pastor Frank has been teaching on the subject of "Old School"-classic characters from back in the day. It's nice to focus on the old testement, because i myself dont tend to stray to that part of my Bible. I need to change that. There were so many important characters and stories and teachings from God even before Jesus came that can teach us great lessons. It's nice to study those old school characters.
Last night we looked in the book of Judges and the story of Samson. I had always been familiar with the whole story of Samson and Delilah, but i had never looked further into it past the whole "femme fatale" and such.
Anyway's, Pastor Frank taught on the aspect of how Samson continued to stray from God through his marriage and sentuality. But, Samson always thought he was invincable. Although he kept doing all these unholy things he still had Gods favor. In Judges 16:20 when the Philistines were coming for Samson he awoke from his sleep and automatically thought he could revert back to his old ways and "shake himself free, or get out of this mess with the help and strength of God. "But he did not know that the Lord had left him". --When it says the Lord had left him it does not mean he forgot about him or left him stranded it simply is saying: God will let us go to show us how futile it is without him. This is why some Christians struggle with the same issues as non-Christians or why Christ followers stray from what is right. But, if you read later in the chapter God came back to Samson and gave him strength. He never really leaves us. He only wants us to see how hateful life and the world is without him.
Biltmore Baptist Church streams live sundays at 11am and 6pm. To view sermons click here
Thank you Lord for being ever faithful.Even though we stray from you, you are always there for us when we want to return. Praise God for his commitment to us. If only we all could have the same commitment to Him.
1.3.11
Happy March
Well, March is here and I have set a few goals to try (fingers crossed) to accomplish this month:
1-Send Adley's Birthday Party Invites.
2-Send My BF's wedding shower invites.
3-Finish planning both events.
4-get adleys 1 year photos made.
5-Organize all of my missed match socks. Don't judge-you know you need to, too.
6-Read a good book.
7-Get a new bathing suit.
8-Exercise daily.
9-Devote at least 30 min. per day to my awesome God.
10-Keep my head on straight.
(The above are in no specific order lol)
Hopefully I will accomplish all 10. Top priority: God time. Bottom priority: Socks-for sure.
Wish me luck-prayer needed at the utmost!
1-Send Adley's Birthday Party Invites.
2-Send My BF's wedding shower invites.
3-Finish planning both events.
4-get adleys 1 year photos made.
5-Organize all of my missed match socks. Don't judge-you know you need to, too.
6-Read a good book.
7-Get a new bathing suit.
8-Exercise daily.
9-Devote at least 30 min. per day to my awesome God.
10-Keep my head on straight.
(The above are in no specific order lol)
Hopefully I will accomplish all 10. Top priority: God time. Bottom priority: Socks-for sure.
Wish me luck-prayer needed at the utmost!
28.2.11
I'm a do it "yourselfer"
Adley is having a tinkerbell themed first birthday party. So, i figured why not get her an adorable outfit to wear. Then, i thought to myself I could make one of those cute little bday outfits myself. So, I am (with the help of my little sis who has amazing sewing abilities). We started working on it today and here is what it looks like so far:
It is only pinned together at this point, so Paige still has to sew it and perfect it, but i think it looks awesome thus far! We made the bow too!
Here are the steps we took:
1--Cut up 4 diffferent colored chiffon fabrics into 6 4x10in strips.
2--Fold in half and bunch speratically along shirt and pin.
3--attach ribbon around top.
5--add bow to top of shirt and bottom of leggings.
6--bow: cut 4 pieces of ribbon into 8 in strips. Fold in half and sew the middle of each piece of ribbon. Make flower shape with all 4 pieces. Sew in the middle. Glew tink fabric to button. Glue to center of flower. Glue clasp to back.
love that we accomplished this!
It is only pinned together at this point, so Paige still has to sew it and perfect it, but i think it looks awesome thus far! We made the bow too!
Here are the steps we took:
1--Cut up 4 diffferent colored chiffon fabrics into 6 4x10in strips.
2--Fold in half and bunch speratically along shirt and pin.
3--attach ribbon around top.
5--add bow to top of shirt and bottom of leggings.
6--bow: cut 4 pieces of ribbon into 8 in strips. Fold in half and sew the middle of each piece of ribbon. Make flower shape with all 4 pieces. Sew in the middle. Glew tink fabric to button. Glue to center of flower. Glue clasp to back.
love that we accomplished this!
25.2.11
Steps
My Baby Girl is starting to walk all by herself and she isn't even 10 months old yet. Im such a proud mommy!
24.2.11
Powerful
"Oh that our home on earth might be to them the pathway, the gate to the Father's home in heaven. Blessed Father, let us and our children be Thine wholly and forever. Amen."
-Andrew Murray
-A prayer found in "Baby & Child Care" by Dr. James Dobson from Focus on the Family
-Andrew Murray
-A prayer found in "Baby & Child Care" by Dr. James Dobson from Focus on the Family
22.2.11
Favorites
My top 5 Favorite Places to shop for baby clothes:
1--Target
2-Babies 'R' Us
3-Gymboree
4-Old Navy
5-Childrens Place
I love the fact that you can shop online at all these stores and that their sizing is pretty true to size. Target is my most favorite simply because its cheap, durable and stylish. You cant go wrong with target! Babies 'R' Us is amazing, they have THE cutest stuff with accessories to match every outfit. Gymboree is a little more expensive, but if you hit it at the right time they have great deals, they also have the cutest swim suits. Old Navy always has stuff on sale, who doesn't like that? Childrens Place is adorable too, they always have great prices aswell.
Here is one of my most favorite items that Adley recently got from Gymboree (Mimi-my mom- bought it for her)
1--Target
2-Babies 'R' Us
3-Gymboree
4-Old Navy
5-Childrens Place
I love the fact that you can shop online at all these stores and that their sizing is pretty true to size. Target is my most favorite simply because its cheap, durable and stylish. You cant go wrong with target! Babies 'R' Us is amazing, they have THE cutest stuff with accessories to match every outfit. Gymboree is a little more expensive, but if you hit it at the right time they have great deals, they also have the cutest swim suits. Old Navy always has stuff on sale, who doesn't like that? Childrens Place is adorable too, they always have great prices aswell.
Here is one of my most favorite items that Adley recently got from Gymboree (Mimi-my mom- bought it for her)
20.2.11
Lessons Learned
This morning we attended Biltmore Baptist Church for worship. We have been attending for a while now since we moved to Fletcher, but today was the first Sunday we left Adley in the nursery.
Andrew and I had discussed how important it is to have an uninterrupted worship experience, so we finally decided to let go and leave Adley in the nursery.
BBC is soooooo big, so of course i was a little worried about crowded rooms and someone picking up Adley and taking her who wasnt supposed to, but as soon as we were educated on how their nursery opperated i had no worries and was super impressed. Since it was Adley's first time in the nursery we had to fill out a form with things like her age, allergies, parents, phone number's, etc. Then, she got her very own number and name in a sticker that went on her back. They also gave us a sticke with the same number on it to give the worker when we came to pick her up. so, the only people that could get her were the ones with the matching number, meaning us haha.That was so awesome. Plus, if your child got upset and they couldnt reach you on your phone, they would put up your childs number on the screen in the worship service. They also had sign in sheets in each room where you listed anything your child may do or need while you are gone. It was so awesome and so organized. I was actually excited!
She was fione when we left her, just playing with toys and getting some social time. The best part was, Andrew and I got to have a focused worship experience and left feeling so refreshed with the Holy Spirit. I mean lets get real, it's hard to focus when you have a squirmy 9 month old wollering you during worship!
After the service we went back to the nursery with our sticker and got Adley. She was crying when we got there, but the nursery volunteer said she had just started and had done great the rest of the time. I could tell she was sleepy, she always gets fussy then. I was just happy she was good 3/4 of the time plus got some time with other kids.
So, Andrew and I learned to let go and take some time for ourselves to have a good sunday experience, baby and interruption free. This was much needed and will surely be a weekly occurrence.
Parents: It is OK to leave your baby for an hour or two. Thats why the nursery is there! Get your God time in, really, because we know you cant take full advantage with a young baby or child. We learned 2 lessons today. 1-the nursery isn't so bad, just the seperation. 2-A distraction free worship environment is more fulfilling.
Andrew and I had discussed how important it is to have an uninterrupted worship experience, so we finally decided to let go and leave Adley in the nursery.
BBC is soooooo big, so of course i was a little worried about crowded rooms and someone picking up Adley and taking her who wasnt supposed to, but as soon as we were educated on how their nursery opperated i had no worries and was super impressed. Since it was Adley's first time in the nursery we had to fill out a form with things like her age, allergies, parents, phone number's, etc. Then, she got her very own number and name in a sticker that went on her back. They also gave us a sticke with the same number on it to give the worker when we came to pick her up. so, the only people that could get her were the ones with the matching number, meaning us haha.That was so awesome. Plus, if your child got upset and they couldnt reach you on your phone, they would put up your childs number on the screen in the worship service. They also had sign in sheets in each room where you listed anything your child may do or need while you are gone. It was so awesome and so organized. I was actually excited!
She was fione when we left her, just playing with toys and getting some social time. The best part was, Andrew and I got to have a focused worship experience and left feeling so refreshed with the Holy Spirit. I mean lets get real, it's hard to focus when you have a squirmy 9 month old wollering you during worship!
After the service we went back to the nursery with our sticker and got Adley. She was crying when we got there, but the nursery volunteer said she had just started and had done great the rest of the time. I could tell she was sleepy, she always gets fussy then. I was just happy she was good 3/4 of the time plus got some time with other kids.
So, Andrew and I learned to let go and take some time for ourselves to have a good sunday experience, baby and interruption free. This was much needed and will surely be a weekly occurrence.
Parents: It is OK to leave your baby for an hour or two. Thats why the nursery is there! Get your God time in, really, because we know you cant take full advantage with a young baby or child. We learned 2 lessons today. 1-the nursery isn't so bad, just the seperation. 2-A distraction free worship environment is more fulfilling.
16.2.11
Take Time
Taking time for yourself when your a mommy is so important. Don't get me wrong i would rather spend time with family and friends more than anything, but me time is so important. Especially since you must be happy yourself to make those you love happy!
When Adley takes naps I:
-Catch up on my shows (love DVR)
-Read my Bible and Devotion (I should do this more often)
-Clean around the house
-Cook
-Check emails and other internet stuff (facebook/blog)
A lot of time she only naps for 20-30 minutes at a time so i obviously cant do everything i need to at once. So, the most important things such as cleaning,and cooking take priority. I need to devote more time to God for sure. As a mom its hard to realize that things like cleaning should just be put off when you dont have much time to yourself. You have to make it a priority to have your "God time".
As a treat for myself usually once or twice a week i will take a long, hot bubble bath. While I'm in the bath I will read a devotion or get caught up in a great book while andrew and Adley are enjoying some daddy/daughter time. Even the simple things like a warm, un-interrupted bath can make you feel so rejuvinated. I am very lucky to have a husband that pushes me to take these moments for myself. He will sometimes even go start my bath water and pour in the bath salts he put in my stocking for Christmas.Ladies, he's taken. haha.
You also need to have alone time with just your spuse. Andrew and I hadn't been out by ourselves in so long, so we decided to leave adley with mimi & papa (my parents) and go out to dinner. It was so needed. We got to reconnect as a couple and have true adult conversation. Talk about our hopes and dreams, wants and needs. It was so amazing. We want to strive to go out, just the 2 of us, atleast once a month.
Remeber: TAKE TIME for: God, Yourself, and Your Spouse.
When Adley takes naps I:
-Catch up on my shows (love DVR)
-Read my Bible and Devotion (I should do this more often)
-Clean around the house
-Cook
-Check emails and other internet stuff (facebook/blog)
A lot of time she only naps for 20-30 minutes at a time so i obviously cant do everything i need to at once. So, the most important things such as cleaning,and cooking take priority. I need to devote more time to God for sure. As a mom its hard to realize that things like cleaning should just be put off when you dont have much time to yourself. You have to make it a priority to have your "God time".
As a treat for myself usually once or twice a week i will take a long, hot bubble bath. While I'm in the bath I will read a devotion or get caught up in a great book while andrew and Adley are enjoying some daddy/daughter time. Even the simple things like a warm, un-interrupted bath can make you feel so rejuvinated. I am very lucky to have a husband that pushes me to take these moments for myself. He will sometimes even go start my bath water and pour in the bath salts he put in my stocking for Christmas.Ladies, he's taken. haha.
You also need to have alone time with just your spuse. Andrew and I hadn't been out by ourselves in so long, so we decided to leave adley with mimi & papa (my parents) and go out to dinner. It was so needed. We got to reconnect as a couple and have true adult conversation. Talk about our hopes and dreams, wants and needs. It was so amazing. We want to strive to go out, just the 2 of us, atleast once a month.
Remeber: TAKE TIME for: God, Yourself, and Your Spouse.
9.2.11
Useful Discovery
Adley has been eating baby food for a while now and the type she likes most is Plum Baby. It's an organic baby food that combines fruits and veggies and still maintains a smooth texture. No added sugar, salt or artificial ingredients. It's actually very tastey (yes, i have tried it). The cool thing is it comes in little squeezable bags which makes it very conveniant. I recently discovered an attachable spoon that screws on the end of the pouch. This makes it very easy to feed a younger child on the go, in a restuarant or even at home without having to use a bowl. I have been out shopping before and adley has gotten hungry so i simply feed her as im walking around while she is sitting in the buggy. It is so easy and so great to use! The attachable spoons are just an added bonus. You can squeeze the food into the babies mouth without the spoon attachment too, but it's a little bit messy! As your child gets older they can also self feed with Plum baby food by holding the pouch themselves and sqeezing it into their mouth. How great of an invention is this?!?!?! I definitely recommend this type of baby food to everyone!
Here are some pics to give you an idea of how great it really is. (Oh and I find the food at Target & Babies-R-Us)
Here are some pics to give you an idea of how great it really is. (Oh and I find the food at Target & Babies-R-Us)
8.2.11
About Time
Well here i am finally with a new post in over 9 months! Since i last blogged Adley Grace was born on April 30th, 2010. She weighed 81bs and was 21.5 in long. Now, nine months later she weighs 17 lbs and is 27 in long! It has taken me this long to get into the swing of things and start to even think about blogging again.
I cannot even begin to describe how wonderful it is to be a mommy. Adley has now started to give hugs and kisses, and smile when i enter the room ( and even cry when i exit). It is such an intense, warm and joyful feeling. Seeing her beautiful smiling face just remindes me everyday how much God has blessed me and my family and how much of a miracle our little Angel Adley is.
Everyone knows that a mother worries about a hundred million things. Always making sure your baby is breathing while they are asleep, making sure each bite is chewed and swallowed, picking up every speck off of the floor where they will be crawling, sanatizing toys and so much more. Worrying about every little thing is exhausting, and not to mention depressing at times. I found a tool to help me with this and many other mommy "woes" so to speak. it is a book called Power of a Praying Parent-by Stormie Omartian. It is an amxiety cure! I would suggest not only every mother, but every parent to a child should read this on a daily basis. Its not just for parents of babies it covers children of any age. Plus its important to start praying fir your baby's future now! The book talks about how to deal with things like parent anxiety, family drama, friendships for your children, your childs heartaches and so much more. It shows you how to handle all of these things through the power of prayer and scripture. How awesome is that? It is truly a spiritual life-saver.
A note to all new mothers & mothers-to -be: Prayer will get you through anything and if you start praying NOW for your child it will do the same for them! Be a great mother by being a Godly influence that they can SEE.
I cannot even begin to describe how wonderful it is to be a mommy. Adley has now started to give hugs and kisses, and smile when i enter the room ( and even cry when i exit). It is such an intense, warm and joyful feeling. Seeing her beautiful smiling face just remindes me everyday how much God has blessed me and my family and how much of a miracle our little Angel Adley is.
Everyone knows that a mother worries about a hundred million things. Always making sure your baby is breathing while they are asleep, making sure each bite is chewed and swallowed, picking up every speck off of the floor where they will be crawling, sanatizing toys and so much more. Worrying about every little thing is exhausting, and not to mention depressing at times. I found a tool to help me with this and many other mommy "woes" so to speak. it is a book called Power of a Praying Parent-by Stormie Omartian. It is an amxiety cure! I would suggest not only every mother, but every parent to a child should read this on a daily basis. Its not just for parents of babies it covers children of any age. Plus its important to start praying fir your baby's future now! The book talks about how to deal with things like parent anxiety, family drama, friendships for your children, your childs heartaches and so much more. It shows you how to handle all of these things through the power of prayer and scripture. How awesome is that? It is truly a spiritual life-saver.
A note to all new mothers & mothers-to -be: Prayer will get you through anything and if you start praying NOW for your child it will do the same for them! Be a great mother by being a Godly influence that they can SEE.
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